Q&A How Do I Protect My Children through All of This?

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My husband is an alcoholic and possibly a sex addict as well. He seems to have been living a double life. He confessed to seeking women’s attention while going to bars and having kissed several. Had a one night stand, and abandoned his commitments as a husband and father to participate in these activities. These behaviors happened either on work trips or with his “swinging friends” who actively participated in setting him up with strangers (or women he knew). He realizes he is an alcoholic now and is seeking professional help. He gets emotional and cries when thinking he has to part with the friends/social group, seems to be more upset about that than losing his family. He confides in these friends about me and his life and does not confide in me. One of the friends he confides in text me an article about what I am doing wrong and how I need to get over it. Since there is not one specific affair partner, I consider all of the infidelity behavior as the affair partner. In counseling today I told him I was not interested in the marriage anymore, I will not be treated in that harmful way and I want a permanent separation. We have a 7 and a 9 year old. They have no idea. What do I do now? I am heartbroken and I hurt and fear for our children and how to be good parents. How do I take care of me, how do I take care of my kids and protect them and teach them.



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