Q&A Is This Normal or Is This a Sign of Unforgiveness?

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My husband had an affair with a woman in our church in 2009. I didn’t find out until he disclosed it to me in 2016. She was one of several women he has cheated on me with over the past 28 years, but the only who attends our church. When I told her that I knew about the affair, she said she had not slept with him. When he spoke up and said they had slept together, she asked him why he was lying on her. I was dumbfounded because I knew she was the one lying. After that day, she disappeared for a little over a year, but now she has started attending again. I am bothered by the fact that she has shown back up after all this time acting as if she has done nothing wrong. It is my desire to forgive my husband and all of his affair partners, but seeing her in church, on Wednesday and Sunday is like pouring salt on an open wound, and I am reminded of all of the affairs. We are considering finding another place to worship because of her. Is it a sign of unforgiveness on my part, if I don’t want to go to church there anymore because of this? We have been members there for about 25 years



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