My husband and I will be attending the EMS weekend in just a few weeks. We have been separated since November 2018. At that time he told me (again) that he wanted a divorce to pursue a relationship with his married AP. I filed at the beginning of January. At the end of January he wrote me a letter of apology and asked if the door for reconciliation was still open. He was still in contact with his affair partner. He states he has since ceased contact. However, it does not appear that he is making a definitive choice to end the relationship. He is willing to go to the EMS weekend, but he has backpedaled significantly in terms of his desire to reconcile. Now he states that he wants to work on his own recovery (H4H an IC) and assist me with mine, but not work on reconciliation. It feels a bit like false recovery. Should we still go to EMS? Our divorce is still pending.