In my case, I find it hopeless because I have a husband who fathered a child with his 2.5 year affair partner. He continues to see them both and will NOT stop seeing either one of them. He alleges that he wants to stay married to me, however he will not stop visiting them nor will he tell her that he is trying to "work things out" with me. Am I correct and thinking there is no point in staying married? I feel he is trying to keep me "calm" because he's concerned about the monetary issues divorce causes.