Q&A Is a Trauma Bond Repairable?

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There has been more than 12 D-Days as he is more concerned with looking good or minimizing than limiting my pain with multiple D-Days. My husband of 26 years has finally disclosed two affairs - one 16-year affair and another 8-month affair. It's been traumatic and messy as the latest affair partner was allowed to live part-time in our home, tried to go after my 19-year old son at same time with my husband, and dosed both with meth. We are finally both seeing individual counselors. His doctor referred him to a psychologist who has diagnosed him as bipolar though I don't know degree. He just finished Hope for Healing and I am in Harboring Hope. My counselor is telling me we are in a trauma bond, that I have PTSD, am depressed, feels I'm in a very unhealthy state, and need to learn more about boundaries. We had financial betrayal before all this also. I am so devastated by all the drama. Is a trauma bond repairable in marriage if working on recovery or is all this just too much abuse and he is just unhealthy. I worry that this is progressive disease that will just happen again and again and may not be repairable.



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