I am married with two young children. I discovered my husband’s 1 1/2 year sexual and emotional affair two months ago. We have been together for 18 years, since high school. He lies daily about something during these past months and he continues contact with the affair partner, despite leading me in a different direction with his words. I have set boundaries, he breaks them. I have asked him to leave as he is not safe for me when still in contact with the affair partner. I need to move with the children and get them settled in a new place where I will have support to work while caring for them. We have both enrolled in the personal courses on your site, but I lose hope daily about any potential future together. At this time, do we go through the messy process of splitting assists and finances; I can’t wait for a year to do that while he decides what he is doing. I feel I need to get into a new space and become independent of him for myself and my children. What are your thoughts on splitting the household while attempting recovery?