Q&A What Do I Do with This Anger and Loss of Trust We Had Worked Hard to Gain?

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Hi Leslie and John. My husband and I are 6 months from D-Day and 2 months from the last (hopefully) revelation. I am the betrayed spouse. We have attended EMS weekend, I've completed HH and we are now in Married for Life with our EMS small group. We have been working diligently to repair our marriage. My husband is repentant and committed to healing and reconciliation. Yesterday I found out that he had confided in two people about his infidelity. We had only told a few people and agreed this was best for now. We had discussed several times over the last 6 months about 100% transparency being crucial to rebuilding trust and intimacy. We had also discussed with each other who we would tell. He told these two additional people right after D-Day and never revealed to me that they knew. I feel so angry and deceived once again. He didn't voluntarily tell me until it came up in conversation and I questioned him. One of the people he told was a woman he works with. Also, it turns out he confided in her 3 years ago, before he started his infidelity. This also bothers me. I don't even know what my question is. I just don't know what to do with this anger and chipping away of the trust I thought we had been building over the last few months.



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