Q&A What Might Be Holding My Spouse Back?

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We are 1 year out from my husband leaving a 6 month affair while he was studying overseas and 10 months since their final contact. We finished EMS in February; we have tried 2 different marriage therapists which ended due to his anger. He seems to have finally found an individual therapist that he can work with, they have done 12 sessions. We have been separated since D-Day and while my husband says that he wants reconciliation, he seems to hold back emotionally. We only talk on a heart level when I initiate, it wasn’t this way in our marriage. He mostly just listens now and doesn’t respond. I want to start marriage therapy again, but he says that he needs more time to work with his individual therapist. I have told him that there is an expiration date on how long I will wait for him to re-engage and when I ask him what the blockage is, he says that it is not the AP, that there are other issues. I don’t press him to tell me, but I am feeling left in the dark. Should I just keep waiting for him to get to a healthier place or is there something else I should consider?



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