Q&A Why Did the Wayward Spouse Want to Reconcile, but Is Now in a Relationship with His Affair Partner Post-Divorce?

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My husband disclosed his 4-6 month affair with me about 2 years ago. We tried to reconcile 3 times throughout the year following D-Day but it never stuck. Each time we reconciled, it would be for a few months and then we would separate and he would go back to his affair partner. What is interesting is that each time we came back together to work on our marriage, it was him who approached me saying how broken he was, how sorry he was and how she was not what he wanted. He could have had her, but he kept coming back to me. In the end, I asked him for a divorce after feeling he did not have true remorse. One week after our divorce was final I found him at the affair partner's home. They have been in a relationship ever since then, for about 6 months, and our son has been introduced to the affair partner and her kids. They are doing things as a 'family' now, and although I did not want to remain in the marriage with him, the thought of him and his affair partner together with my son makes me sick to my stomach. I feel betrayed over and over again.



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