Q&A How Do I Get over What I Don't Know?

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We have been married 35 years and he thought he was single for 4 of those years, from 2013-2016. When trickle truth started, September 2016, until the last disclosure at a polygraph, Dec 7, 2017. (which he lied) so all in all, I had discovered 2 long term mistresses, 2 one night stands, and 3 emotional affairs. The affairs had all be cut off. I am almost sure that there was more, but I can’t handle anymore. So I told him and you advised and our marriage counselors advised, that we could move on in our marriage without anymore disclosure. He is very remorseful and has changed so much and he has never stopped any counseling since the beginning of D-Days in 2016. I see he is a different man, and he is doing everything to help us heal, so my question is... I know I have to grieve what I know to get over this, how do I get over what I don't know, and will never know?



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