Q&A Am I Being Passive Agressive?

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I've been contending with my husbands lack of transparency. He won't share passwords for anything email, bank accounts, fb, etc. When we attended EMS he conformed to your suggested transparency guidelines but since then things have changed. He wants his privacy & it's been a point of contention. I feel like it's a need for secrecy & have told him so.


A few days ago he was locked out of his email & he cannot remember his password. I know he has lost a lot of info and it's frustrating for him. I'm also pretty sure I know how to fix it but honestly I feel a little justified that his secret world is all bottled up right now. I feel that if he had been open with his passwords he wouldn't be in this predicament. I'm resisting helping him in his pursuit to keep things from me or help him continue to do something he knows is hurtful to me.


I know eventually he will open another email account but I'm tired of saving his world. I feel like I've done that throughout our relationship. Whenever there's a problem, I would jump in to solve it before ever being asked.


Am I behaving passive aggressively or being petty by not helping him or even offering to help him solve this issue?

Also do you have any suggestions on finding a solution or middle ground with regard to this aspect of a lack of transparency?



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