The last of the three affairs my husband had that I know of ended 8 years ago. We've been married 26 years and are now enrolled in EMS Online. We have spent the last month listening to videos on your site and he is trying to help me heal. Even though he has seen several videos saying it takes most couples a year or more of doing recovery work he continues to tell me that I should not still be in this much pain because it's been so long. What are your thoughts?