I had an affair 20 years ago, we were married 7 years...he found out but I did not tell him much about it. 4 years ago I told him it was sexual, which he suspected.... I handled it all wrong from the beginning... For 4 years we have been struggling. We have both about given up but neither want to. I have done the boot camp and working on hope for healing...... Now he wants to know everything about my boyfriends I had in high school and college .. Is this relevant or even helpful?