Q&A Are These Reoccurring Mental Images of Porn Normal?

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I think my spouse is a sex addict. He has taken the addiction test multiple times and always scores relatively high. He once before admitted to being a sex addcited, but is now unsure again. He still struggles with thoughts about images he saw in pornography and remains an open question whether his reaction to them is positive or not. I am not sure what to believe at this point. He has stopped pornography use before d-day. But as far as I know, and I don't ask daily anymore because it is just too painful to hear, he has several of those images in his head daily. This makes me wonder if he is really "sober" if you will. Because it just seems like he wouldn't even need to view any new porn, because has years worth of mental images just stored in his brain. He says, he always tries to move on from them quickly, but I believe that oftentimes he can't do it within 3 seconds. This has been very hard for me to deal with because it still seems unfaithful to me. Is this normal for someone with sex addiction? Is there any hope that this will stop? I just want to know if this is to be expected right now, or if he is still indulging in sexual gratification from outside of our relationship. We are now two years out from the initial d-day and this hasn't changed.

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