Q&A Can You Clarify the Statement, ‘My Mate Is Not the Problem, My Mate Only Reveals the Problem in Me’?

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I’m having a problem understanding the statement,"My mate is not the problem, my mate only reveals the problem in me". If my mate betrays me, lies to me, deceives me, manipulates me, or gaslights me, and I get hurt, upset, and angry because of their choices or behavior, how is that revealing a problem in me?



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