Q&A Do My Sexual Dreams Indicate a Deeper Underlying Problem?

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My wife and I are taking EMS Online due to years of my personal struggle with pornography. EMS has been an excellent decision. However, something that has bothered us both for years is that I have frequent sex dreams. In these dreams, I’ve had sex with known and unknown females, males, some family members and some with my wife herself. Some of these encounters would never cross my mind in real life but somehow get into my dream were sometimes, I’m powerless against it. Also, many times, I ejaculate in these sex dreams and wake up to find that I have actually ejaculated in real life. This always leaves me feeling extremely ashamed and tempted to hide it from my wife. It really bothers her and bothers me too. I have been taught and always believed that this is a negative spiritual problem that needs to be addressed. Also my mate has once said that as long as these dreams occur, even if she is the sex partner in the dream, that there is a problem, most likely spiritual. I have prayed for these dreams to stop, sometimes begging God just before I sleep. Sometimes I fear sleeping because I’m worried it will happen again. This has been such a burden and weight of condemnation and shame. I really wish it could be lifted right away. Have you come across this?



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