Rick, we are only 7 weeks out from D day and we just attended your April EMS weekend and learned so much. I am the betrayed spouse. This week has been exceptionally hard for me with my fears. My husband has gotten frustrated some because of my fears and triggers and anger and I'm having a hard time knowing how hard he is willing to work. My question is do you find that it takes practice at first for the unfaithful to provide the safety and respond the way i need to be able to grieve and heal? How do I know the progress being made is enough to help us improve and heal?