Q&A How Can I Be Comfortable Being Intimate Again?

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I struggle being intimate with my wife after her disclosure. Not just during sex but the pre sex intimacy. The verbal foreplay, the naughty texts or sending of intimate photos like we used to, and now 3 years later and a horrible mental breakdown from stuffing, it’s becoming more frequent to have intrusive images during love making. This used to be my only quiet times with her post disclosure. The one time my brain could focus on just her and I being in the moment and everything else just falling away into the quiet. How can I be comfortable being intimate again (not specifically the sex/love making) but the other intimacies, like kissing, talking sexual, and photos type stuff as listed above? The emotional and verbal foreplays as it were. She shared these with affair partner and was the largest part of her infidelity and probably my biggest struggle to experience with her.



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