My mate and I have been separated for 4 months, D-Day was about 2 years ago. We live together. It was me, the betrayed spouse, who initiated the separation because I didn't feel safe in the relationship due to some dishonesty, ambivalence, judgment on my partner's part and the fighting was unmanageable. I think being separated and doing EMS Online has helped us communicate somewhat better, but I still struggle with feeling safe. Also, I am uncertain about something. Sometimes I feel like I would like to vent to or share my struggles with my mate, when we are not supposed to be in contact on that day. This has been difficult for me and made me feel lonely at times. I was wondering if we are doing this right? Should I keep my distance like this, so that I abide by the rules of the separation or should I reach out to my partner when I feel like I am struggling?