I want to start talking more about the affair with my wife. 30 Days out and we have been talking a lot of recovery, the future and being very open with each other. She has told me that it is hard to bring up the affair and I would like to help her start these conversations. My concern is painting a more vivid picture for her and that this will cause triggers. What should I talk about when bringing up the affair? Feelings? Activities? I'm not sure where to start.