My husband and I are 8 months past D-Day. We attended EMS Weekend a month ago and have just started Beyond EMS. We are not seeing a therapist at this time. I have started HH. My husband, the unfaithful, claims he still doesn't know if he wants the marriage, not sure he's meant to be married, isn't "marriage material" and doesn't want to hurt me anymore. I am not sure how we should move forward as he says he is only worried about my healing and making sure our 2 young children are okay. He shows signs of wanting to be here at home with us, does anything we need around the house, etc, but shows little affection and no physical touch towards me. I wonder if the shame and guilt from the past affairs have him in a hole he feels he doesn't deserve to come out of or if he is just keeping the peace so nothing has to change yet. I am not convinced he doesn't want to be married anymore but he is still so physically distant. How do we break this barrier between us?