Q&A I Need Confirmation. Should I Leave Him?

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My husband and I have been married almost 3 years. He cheated and I found out after 18 months. We began recovery and I was having a difficult time about 8 months later I went into his phone without asking and saw texts that I felt were not appropriate. He denied anything was going on. He stated he could not live this way and wanted out. Then he changed his mind. He then changed all his passwords so I had no way of checking phone records any longer. He didn't tell me he did it. When I found out I confronted him. He stated it’s not going to help you. It’s not something you need to know. That was a red flag for me. I told him I didn't want a marriage where things were off limits. I also felt like he was still hiding. Finally I located his passwords and it revealed what I had been feeling. Two days after the passwords were changed; he started contacting the two women he had affairs with originally. While it’s not as frequent as it was doing the 18 months this has been going on for since November 2015. I haven't told him I found proof. I don't want to give up on the marriage but it seems that he wants to be married as well as carry on these affairs. I'm feeling like God is saying I need to move out and if he can't come to a place of repentance I will have to file for divorce.



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