9 years ago my husband had a 4 year affair. He claims he broke the physical part off after 4 years, but he has kept the friendship for the past 5 years. He has visited her when he was in her area and they communicated by text/phone 2-3 times per week since. He claims he did not want to keep seeing her or communicating with her. Why did he not say no? No one forced him to drive over to her house for dinner when she invited him. He does not know why he did not stop it - it had nothing to do with her holding it over him. All contact was via a work phone I will never have access to. He says he stopped all contact 3 months ago when he was caught. He claims he loves me and wants to stay married to me. We are in EMSO and are planning on signing up for HH and H4H next. My question is, is it likely that he still has feelings for the AP who he had kept a part of his life for the past 9 years? is it possible that he did not know how to end it all or did he just not want to? Ironically, he has no trouble saying no to me. I am not sure where this all leaves me and what kind of a relationship we could have moving forward. Thanks