I’m the betrayed. We have been married 28 years. D-day has been almost 3 years. My husband had a physical and emotional affair that lasted 4 months. We have completed all of the courses that are offered by Affair Recovery and we’ve come a long way in our healing. Our friendship has grown and we have really come together as parents. We get along and do everything together. My husband continues to work on our marriage, is completely transparent and safe. The problem is we are no longer intimate. I feel like I could take it or leave it at this point and husband doesn’t want to take initiative to be romantic or intimate because he says he doesn’t want to be rejected. Is it my responsibility to initiate at this point in our healing? Not really sure where to go at this point. I love my husband but I want more out of a marriage than friendship.