Q&A Is It Possible to Extend Too Much Grace and Mercy?

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My wife recently went on a healing retreat. It started on Sunday and that night was our week 6 EMSO call on Empathy. She did not do the group call and did not speak to me the whole week. She also stopped posting on the wall. It was an incredibly difficult week for me and I had hoped she would return with compassion but she was angrier than ever and refused to acknowledge that what she had done was a terrible choice. Everything she chose was the opposite of empathy towards me. I have chosen for the 5 months since D-Day to cover her with grace and be optimistic about our future. She seems to take this for granted. She shows anger, silence and disregard after my attempts to communicate. She rarely owns it and does not understand heartfelt listening. Aside from seeing me in pain and her own internal anguish, she has experienced no consequences. She has decided she will no longer visit our couples counselor who she chose, because she thinks he makes her feel bad. Only a few know, so I pretend normal around almost everyone. I am wondering if she needs a consequence such as being asked to leave our home for a period of time unless she gets serious. I don’t want our kids to be affected but I am so tired of wondering how she will react next.

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