Q&A My Husband Insists We Move Forward Without Discussing the Affair. Is it Possible?

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Hi Rick. I am starting Harboring Hope in October. I have told my husband, for the last 5 months, that until I get the big details of the affair, to ensure he can be trusted and that the AP's twins are not his, that we cannot stay married. I obviously am breaking my own boundaries because we are still married and he says there is 100% no way he will be able to tell me about the affair. We are 5 months out D day. You gave him some advice about a calendar, but he has not tried or talked about it. Since I now know I will never get those answers, or be able to talk about the affair, how do we move forward without it? All 3 of our marriage counselors have told us we cannot but my husband insist that I will one day get over it.



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