Q&A My Mate has Changed Drastically for the Better. Is This Real?

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We are 8 months past d-day and have done HH, h4h and Emso. For months, my husband (the serial betrayer) has been going through patches where he is defensive, mean, sarcastic and manipulative to me, punctuated by a few rare nice moments here and there. 

He's been seeing a therapist since January but I didn't think therapy was doing much for him. Whenever he would come home from therapy, he would be nastier and more bitter to me than before. 

Then all of a sudden, a few days ago, he came home from therapy and started being kind to me. He's begun to just listen when I cry (which is everyday). He's been sending loving text messages during the day. He's been empathetic and humble. It's like a light switch went off. I do not know who this new man is, and I'm scared that his new approach of being nice to me will wear off after a few days. Is this for real? What happened?



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