Q&A My Wife Is Considering a Revenge Affair. What Should I Do?

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I am the wayward spouse. After six months of disclosures I have finally told my story and all my infidelities over our 29 years of marriage. Now my wife says that it is too late and wants to show me how it feels to be on her end. She told me that she is going to start dating for the purpose of having sex. She plans on going with me to marriage counseling and church with the intent of being purposefully hypocritical. How do I talk to her? Where should we seek advice?



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Tell the truth

Tell her that would not be good for your relation with her and leave it with that...


What is it that you are sorry for? Is it that she wants to seek revenge or that it going to hurt you if she goes through with the plan? Can you not see that you have done something so heinous to her that she now wants you to feel her pain?

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