Q&A Should I Be Concerned about My Unfaithful Mate's Intrusive Thoughts?

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My husband has had emotional affairs, porn use, fantasy issues, and voyeuristic tendencies. We are over two years out from the original D-Day. Rogue thoughts enter his mind when we are being intimate and I'm so tired of it. They can be disturbing in nature and repetitive. The first year he had none and in the second year he would have them occasionally . Recently they are coming back. It's like he can't see or hear anything throughout daily life without it popping into his mind the next time we're together. He is working recovery at Affair Recovery and with marriage/individual counseling. He has ended all unhealthy behavior objectifying, fantasy, however he did trickle truth until about 5 months ago. Are these thoughts a sign of something else going on or a deep dissatisfaction of his life or is this to be expected? He is sharing them with me as they occur which as you can imagine is good and bad. He seems frustrated by them too but after so many lies it's now very difficult for me to trust him and myself when it comes to trusting him.

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