Q&A Should I Move on or Be Patient with My Mate?

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My husband has been in an emotional affair that began about 1 year ago with a coworker. He claims to love me but says he is in love with the affair partner. He has left me 3 times now and recently asked for a divorce as he doesn't feel he will ever make me happy. I have been steadfast in my willingness to work on our marriage of 26 years but he just seems so ambivalent, it is like he can’t foresee a future with me at all. I feel the biggest issue is he continues to work with the affair partner and he seems unwilling or unable to cut off contact with her. We had started the EMSO and had just finished the second week when he told me he wanted a divorce. I fear he is going to regret his decision and I am concerned for his mental health but wonder what I should be doing and thinking at this time. Do I move on or let this play out a bit more? Not sure how much more rejection I can take.



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