Q&A What Do I Do about My Husband's Yellow Light Behaviors?

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My husband had 2 physical affairs & a pornography addiction. Since D-Day he says he's porn-free. His phone's accountability app hasn't shown any porn, but he is constantly viewing salacious news stories, such as updates on sex scenes from TV shows he doesn't watch, or especially stories about female teachers arrested for having sex with students. He has long had an unhealthy fascination with the latter subject. I brought this up with my counselor & she said he's likely using the stories to envision the sex acts. I'm a bit incredulous about this, but from his constant visits to the same stories over & over, I realize she is correct. I've asked him about it without telling him I know what he's reading, & he LIED saying he avoids those stories for just that reason. I dropped the discussion, because I didn't want to fight at bedtime. My instinct is to figuratively slap him across the face with it & then verbally duke it out. I'm so triggered by the lie that I don't know how to constructively confront him about this. He's doing so much right & we've healed so much, but this makes me want to leave because I feel trapped & manipulated and undervalue again.



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Yellow Light warnings

HI... Am I wrong in that I should know my unfaithful husband's yellow lights? He said those are personal & have nothing to do with me. We have our own "couple" yellow lights. I came to him concerned about some of the yellow lights we had discussed in the past, that is currently doing now. He said those are his, and he does not want me holding them over his head. Is that how its supposed to be, those are private? Unsure, need hellp please.

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