Q&A What Do I Do When the Wayward Spouse Remains Hidden?

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My spouse left his phone home by accident and went to work last week. I decided to check it out to see if he has been telling me the truth about everything. I obviously do still question whether or not I can really trust him again. I found that he has been searching for all inclusive resorts that have topless and nude beaches. We thought it might be nice to take a vacation next year maybe renew our vows and start over again if all goes well with recovery. However I never mentioned I wanted to go to a nude or topless beach. This was not discussed. My husband has had trouble with wondering eyes so I am not sure why he would think this would be a good idea. When asked about it he told me it was something he thought could be intimate between us but didn’t tell me yet because he was afraid of my reaction. I shouldn’t have to check his phone to see what he is thinking about and the fact that he hid it from makes me feel like his intentions were not good. What to do at this point?



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