At what point do you say, “I can’t move on with this person?” What my mate did doesn’t seem nearly as bad as some but it’s bad enough. We have spent thousands in counselling later. Over the course of two years we have taken three Affair Recovery courses and my life still sucks, I want it over with. I don’t want to feel like a victim but her very being makes my heart and chest still pain. I can’t sleep or look at her the same. In it for the kids at this point. Is that still enough?