Q&A What Should Our Next Step Be?

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My husband and I attended the EMS weekend in March. Since we have been home I have been seeing forward progress, although it is very slow. We have been doing all of our weekly calls, he is attending counseling on his own, he has blocked the APs number. The AP has been contacting him via email. I have asked him for his password to his email and his phone and he gets very angry with me when I do and/or he completely shuts down and will not talk to me about the subject at all. We do have detailed billing set up so I can see if they call/text which I have not seen. I am very concerned about the lack of transparency with email/phone. It makes me feel like he is hiding something and I need to be on guard. He says he does not respond to her when she emails and he does not want to me to read them because it would just hurt me more. I suggested he block her email address or delete the account all together, but no action has been taken. I can see forward progress but then again I do not like this hidden area. I am at a loss as to what a healthy next step would be. It is consuming my thinking and I just want the issue resolved. I have been on this road for a very long time now, with multiple D-Days. December 2016 being the first to March 2018 being the most recent. Thank you for your help.



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