Samuel discusses some of the most common pitfalls and cop outs spouses use when trying to heal.
"For what it's worth: it's never too late to be who you want to be. I hope you live a life you're proud of, and if you find that you're not, I hope you have the strength to start over." – Eric Roth
Three years can sometimes seem like three thousand years, and at other times, it feels like three seconds. The perception of time is so variable depending on its contents in our conscious experience.
When I used to craft romance novels, hours seemed like minutes. I was so focused on the characters, the pacing, and the plot unfolding before me that time seemed to evaporate into my flow of invested thought. As I transferred words...
Samuel shares a key viewpoint which is essential for couples to heal from infidelity or addiction.
Samuel gets personal today and shares how he handled the loneliness that infidelity created for him.
Samuel shares one of the most important tips to help couples in crisis heal.
Samuel shares four key points to help betrayed spouses reconnect with their unfaithful spouse.
Last blog I posed a thought life challenge I've heard many betrayed express. Was my life 'real'? I don't know what to believe. What was real and what wasn't? To say that my life had not been what I thought it was would be quite an understatement. Real in every way to me, yet I was in fact controlled via the withholding of vital information to believe I was safe and in the gentle care of a loving, faithful spouse.
I won't pretend to say my thoughts on this are true for anyone but myself, but you may find threads of similarity with my feelings.
Life history matters. Our days are the only commodity we have. I view the time I spend as precious and irreplaceable. I chose to spend the majority of my adult life with the man I promised a lifetime. I chose to invest in his dreams, his ability to reach for them, his happiness. It is truly my life calling to uphold and add to the lives of...
For the unfaithful spouse, there will come a point in your recovery where you will begin your grief process. It will likely not happen at the same time or in the same way as your spouse, and it should not come as a surprise to us.
Grief is the vehicle in which we carry our pain. For betrayed spouses, grief begins immediately; they are bombarded and overwhelmed by the shock waves of finding out that their spouse has cheated on them. They are in horrendous pain, and the grief starts on day one.
For most unfaithful, the grief will look different because it is delayed. It is delayed, because while we are acting out in our affairs, we are not feeling genuine feelings. We are in pain avoidance and pretend mode and there are no "real" feelings in an affair. It is not until an unfaithful spouse can start to slow down,...
Samuel shares four key points that the unfaithful can utilize to win back their betrayed spouse's heart.
Samuel helps both spouses understand the need to survive before they can move on to the next season of repair work.
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