Understanding the Impact of Betrayal Trauma with Andrea Rogers
If you've ever wondered why nobody knew what to do with you after your world fell apart, you're not alone. In this bonus episode, board-certified betrayal trauma coach Andrea Rogers shares her own story of discovering a 12-year affair, the difference between real recovery and simply modifying behavior, and how her healing led her to launch Intimate Partner Betrayal Awareness Day on August 4th. Betrayal trauma is real, and so is the community of people who get it.
Andrea Rogers is a Board Certified Coach and Certified Partner Coach with APSATS, known for her empowering voice for betrayed partners. With over 20 years of experience in emotional wellness and empowerment coaching , she is the founder of Fully Alive Coaching and the Intimate Partner Betrayal Alliance, along with the creation of Intimate Partner Betrayal Awareness Day.
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7 years after discovering my…
7 years after discovering my husband's ongoing emotional and physical relationship with another woman, I find myself continually drawn to hearing stories of other people's betrayals. My husband refused to discuss the affair, saying at the time that I was imagining things, then that my reaction to the relationship was the only problem here and then that what he did with whom was none of my business. So I have only the information I discovered and he has still not stopped his relationship with the other woman, in spite of every avenue I tried to persuade him, until I decided it was time to take the children and leave. Yet also he does not want to stop talking with me about things other than his affair and dropping in for visits with the children. I think the lack of closure and the ongoing uncertainty surrounding the relationship has meant I am stuck in wanting to be understood, heard, acknowledged by others in a way that he is not prepared to do. When I hear about the betrayal that others have experienced, my heart goes out to them and I also feel validated in my own situation. My heartbreak is understandable, my reaction appropriate, my pain real.
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In reply to 7 years after discovering my… by Sunshine Daisy
I love your last statement: "My heartbreak is understandable, my reaction appropriate, my pain real." So true. Having walked the road of betrayal myself, I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Having a safe place to share your heart is so valuable in recovery. I encourage you to look into Harboring Hope. For me, it was a godsend. I not only found support, but also the guidance I needed to process and heal. Prior to Harboring Hope, I had spent four years stuck in pain with no idea how to move forward. The curriculum was written not only by clinical therapists, but also two people who had been betrayed themselves. Their dual perspective was so unique and offered a level of empathy I hadn't found anywhere else. You don't have to go through this alone.
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