Q&A Am I Deceiving Myself?

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We are 9 months past D-Day for the 2nd affair and 19 years past the 1st affair. My husband never apologized for his infidelity. Then on March 9, after a big fight he packed his bag and said he wants a divorce. Our life, as you can imagine, has been very chaotic. My son stopped him from exiting the front door. I told my son to let his dad go as he's emotionally checked-out and done with us. He confessed to my kids about what he did but minimized it by saying "your mom thought I was having an affair. She's just a co-worker that I vented to and was asking her for apartments she may know since I want to move out." Since the front door is blocked, I told my husband I will help him sneak through the garage. I did. I even rolled his luggage for him out the garage. That was the first time I said he can go out of many times he said he wanted to leave us. Minutes later he came back. That was the first time he apologized to me but he said he doesn't want counselling. We had a very cathartic discussion. I have been feeling good since that night. I'm afraid that I forgave or recovered too fast. I heard the apology I've longed for, for years, but now it feels odd that I feel okay. I am afraid I'm in a stage that I don't know about (pseudo-bliss) and then flooding will hit me like a truck, and I will be a mess again. Is this normal for recovery?



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