Q&A Am I Rushing My Healing Process?

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My husband was recently involved in a category four affair that had some attributes of a category two affair. This was his second sexual affair and he had an emotional affair that lasted two years. We have been married for 18 years. On D-day 3 months ago, he admitted to me that when he was 11 years old he was raped by some older boys. He said he never told anyone about this. This certainly explained some things. He is now in a recovery group for men who have been sexually assaulted or molested, which is helping a lot he is also in a 12 Step group much like Celebrate Recovery and he is also getting EMDR treatments, we see a Christian therapist who we like and feel is helping us. He has had no contact with affair partner in over two months. I am in Harboring Hope and getting a lot from it and I have a great support group of friends. My husband is making significant progress, and I am feeling pretty good myself. I do not yet trust him, and I am working on forgiveness, but I do not feel the anger and hurt everyone talks about anymore. We are building a new marriage and I have a lot of hope. Am I overlooking something? I am scared that I am not healing correctly. I have prayed for God to show me anything I may be overlooking or ignoring. I am not trying to rush my healing.



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