Q&A Can I Get My Husband to Try?

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My husband had a 1.5 year affair where he fell in love with his affair partner. At the time of disclosure he was extremely depressed, self-loathing, and suicidal. Contact has stopped to my knowledge. He started individual counseling and said he wanted to work on himself and wasn’t sure if he wanted to work on our marriage. It’s now been 4 months since disclosure. He says that he doesn’t think we can make it work because being around me causes him too much guilt and anxiety. I’ve tried to get him to do any of the affair recovery options with me but he won’t agree, the idea of doing it seems to cause too much anxiety. I do believe his guilt and anxiety are very real but I also wonder if it’s feelings for the affair partner holding him back. For my son, I want to at least try to make it work but I don’t know what else I can do to convince my husband to try. Any ideas or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.



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