I’ve put a no sex boundary in my marriage to wake up my husband about change. We are 10 weeks past discovery. I also required him to see a CSAT. He has seen the CSAT 3 times. Our pastor told us that we should be boyfriend and girlfriend and not worry about therapy for 3 months. I believe he should continue seeing the CSAT. My question to you is; do you think it will have an adverse effect on our healing if I have sex with him as a gift for seeing the therapist? To be honest I miss it and it is a nice way to connect.