Q&A Can You Help with My Confusion?

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I read a submitted question about a betrayed wife wondering how her unfaithful husband could commit infidelity if he really cared about her, loved her, and had integrity towards their marriage. You had mentioned that it wasn’t so much that he didn’t love and care for her, but that he didn’t love and care for himself. I am having a very difficult time with this answer. While I believe he may not have loved, cared, and had integrity for himself, by committing infidelity he also did not love and care for her, nor show integrity within their marriage. Infidelity in a marriage is not displaying to me that you love and care about your spouse in any way. Marriage vows are a promise to love, honor, and cherish your spouse which has been broken in infidelity as infidelity is not love as you have promised to do. I do realize it was an unloving act towards her, but if he truly loved her, wouldn’t he have valued, cared, and loved her enough to not commit it in the first place.



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