In the 7 months since last d-day, my husband hasn’t disclosed anything. All I know is from asking questions or my own discoveries, which hurts deeply. He often says he can’t remember dates and details (his affair began less than a year ago so I’m not sure how that’s possible) but does admit that recently some things have come back to him. Trouble is, these things often contradict what he previously told me when I asked. So I keep asking and it’s exhausting. I have told him that rather than this drip feed, driven by me, I would someday like a full written disclosure of events and his feelings right up to his last phone contact with her last month. Can you provide an example of a written disclosure and when is a good time for the US to do this in their recovery? In reading blogs it seems US’s can recall events up to a couple of years later, which frightens me. My husband is considering doing Hope for Healing but isn’t sure when he might be ready, he’s resistant and somewhat ambivalent still and, I believe, has only started to come out of the fog in the last month.