We are 3 years out from the first discovery. Major life happenings occurred right after that, so much of it was shoved down and put aside. We are just now starting to work through the process of recovery of our marriage. Is this a normal occurrence? I am in Harboring Hope and everyone in the group has just had their discovery within the past 6 months. Does it affect our healing process because we waited so long to start this program? We have had issues finding the right help, programs and therapists. They just feel that we should be over it, that I should just be over it. Is it too late?