It has been 3 years since D-day and my husband had a child with his affair partner since then. In June 2021 we, together with our 17-year-old son and my psychologist, started working on family boundaries. Since the ordeal started in 2018, my husband would come every day to see our son, have meals, and watch Netflix. Part of our boundaries is for him now to be here Saturday and Sunday. He still supports us financially. Would you advise that my husband and I set a session with my sister and my friend, his mom and possibly his friend, and my psychologist for me to find out what the not so good things he said I’ve done but does not want to tell me directly and he said he did not want others to know because they will think badly of me? I know I haven’t been a perfect wife in all of almost 23 years of being married at the time he had an affair. I know my faults but I cannot remember the things he said that will make others think badly of me.