Q&A How Can We Prevent Relapse in This Work Situation?

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My wife and I have been married 14 years. I am on the 7th week of Harboring Hope and she is on the same week of Hope for Healing. She had a limerent affair that lasted a year with an older married man who had been a mentor to her since collage. Her emotional affair became physical while attending a conference out of town. She said that she always knew what she was doing was wrong but couldn’t help herself. She had a very difficult time breaking off contact after I discovered the affair and relapsed a couple of months later. She hasn’t had any communication with him for the last four months. Next month she will be attending the same annual conference that her affair partner will also be attending. Her work requires her attendance and I cannot go because of our two young kids. We have disused how she will handle different scenarios of the affair partner trying to reconnect with her. She has blocked him on her cell phone, agreed not to drink alcohol and let me know if she has any contact with him. She has agreed to similar things in the past but has not always followed through. Do you have any suggestions of other things she could do to help prevent another relapse at the conference?



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