My husband came to me to after meeting to finalize the divorce wanting to reconcile. He has taken some good steps and even set up an intensive weekend for us with Christian coaches. I wanted to know they had experience with infidelity and they have helped other couples. Here is my concern: I have spoken with them and we meet with the June 5th and they have conveyed to me that once he has repented we do not need to discuss the affair any longer. That is like picking a scab and opening the wound over and over. With all my lessons with you this is opposite of what you recommend. I know you all have great success with your program. When this comes up during our weekend can you give me advice of what to say? I don't want my husband to believe this is the way we will have true healing and then a new marriage. I know he wants to just move on and doesn't want to talk about it all and believes it just needs to stay in the past. Please help. He is also still in contact with the affair partner and wants to keep her employed at our company. He has left the company but doesn't think she should lose her job. I feel she should be removed from our life completely.