Q&A How Do I Heal When I Feel He’s Lying and Still Entangled with a Coworker?

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My husband has admitted to an emotional and physical affair after I discovered it 3 months ago. I had suspected for months because he was treating me the same way he did when he had his first affair seven years ago. There is a good deal of evidence that points to a coworker being the other woman. However, he denies and says it was a random person he met at the grocery store and struck up a conversation with. He is very ambivalent but he has been going to marriage and individual counselling. He still exhibits many signs of limerence, such as rewriting history, justifying his actions, blaming me and says he doesn't know if he wants this marriage. We have two children so I'm holding onto hope that he will come out of this fog and come to his senses to begin reconciliation. The first affair he was very remorseful, but I don't see it this time. How do I heal when I feel like he is lying and still entangled emotionally with a coworker? Do I just wait and see if he will come out of this? I'm a stay at home mom who is dependent on him financially so I feel like my choices are limited right now.



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