Q&A How Do I Heal When Time Has Been Taken from Me?

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I’m six-month post discovery and recently celebrated my 18-year anniversary. D day occurred last June. While vacationing, I discovered that my husband had been with ten other women over the course of our marriage. The first two affairs occurred shortly after the birth of each of our children the rest within the past three years. Nearly all of the affairs were one-night stands that happened while he was travelling for work. He has since taken a new job with less travel; however, this new job isn’t in our current state. He’s been working two weeks out of our home and two weeks in the new location each month. After May of 2019, this arrangement ends. Our last move caused a great deal of anger and frustration for me. I disconnected emotionally to deal with it. I’m in HH and have been doing a lot of self-reflection. I told my husband that I needed him to do some type of recovery program to help restore trust. He is hyper-focused on the future not the present. How do I help him understand that the future is extremely scary for me? How do I reconnect with him emotionally when he is only home half the time? I am overwhelmed by my situation. Not only do I need to come to terms with his infidelity, but I need to deal with another move in order to save my marriage.



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