Q&A How Do I Quit Worrying about Our Sexual Relationship?

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My D-Day was early September 2018. Before his yearlong affair, my husband was never able to reach orgasm unless it was through penetration or manually stimulating himself. This had been a point of frustration for us both. While he was in his affair, unbeknownst to me, I thought our sex life was improving because he was reaching completion from oral and manual stimulation as well. Now that he has stopped the affair and we are trying to heal, this old ejaculation problem has started again. He is blaming it on the antidepressants he's on, but I worry that now our sex life will revert aka always be less "satisfying" for him than his affair sex. I have not asked if he was able to ejaculate with his AP but I assume he was. He is 32, we've been married 10 years, and up until the affair we were each other’s only partners. His affair was highly emotional and physical. He had a terrible detox period, hence the antidepressants, when she broke it off with him. He is currently in Hope for Healing and personal counseling. I'm just in Harboring Hope. Any insight and guidance would be greatly appreciated.



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