Q&A How Do I Recover in a Situation like This?

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My husband and I are 11 months passed the first D-Day. He is part owner of a business and the affair partner is a subordinate. The affair lasted 18 months. It ended because I found out, confronted my husband, and when the texts and phone calls continued, I drove to her house to confront her, but she wasn't home. Her husband answered the door. I told him everything. After that, the affair came to a screeching halt. However, my husband continues to work with the affair partner because he is afraid of a sexual harassment law suit if he fires her...even though it was not sexual harassment! Also, the affair partner’s husband threatened to sue, but no law suit has been filed and not grievance has been reported to HR. My husband says he can't do anything to make her leave, and he cannot fire her. Since he is an owner, he cannot leave his business either. I feel like he is sacrificing my feelings to save himself, and I am not making progress in recovery. Every day that he gets up and goes to work, I know he sees her. I feel like they have a secret pact to protect each other which is just another continuous betrayal. I have symptoms of PTSD with flashbacks, nightmares, panic attacks, etc. I am not sure what to do. How do I recover in a situation like this?



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